1. Raising a kid will make your worry about everything

2. Changing diapers really isn't that bad...usually
Everyone fears it - the dreaded dirty diaper. You see horror stories online, hear them from your parents (usually about you), or see them memorialized in movies. Dirty diapers are not fun and when you are a first time parent, it's something that will make any sane person nervous. But in reality, they aren't that bad. Sure, changing another kid's diaper may be bad, but this is your son/daughter. He's a perfect blend of you and your partner and you love everything about him, even when his diaper didn't do it's one sole job on this Earth and keep the poop in the freaking diaper and now it's up his back and on your arm and oh god he's rolling around!!! Yeah, blowouts suck, no disguising that, but you get over it and sooner than you think you'll be changing diapers like a pro.
3. My wife is a superhero

4. Money is great, but you will realize you can survive on a lot less than you thought
Going back to my previous point, my wife and I made the conscious decision to eliminate one of our salaries from the mix and live exclusively on mine. It's hard, don't let me fool you with that. Sometimes it's extremely hard and we have amazing parents who have helped us out when we needed it, but in the end we found that how we lived before we had kids was pretty wasteful. We really didn't need to order out so much or take those Target trips that somehow cost $200 for things we truly didn't need. Some parents can't do this though and we are extremely thankful that I make enough to raise our family on my salary. If it's a possibility with yours, I highly recommend it because there is nothing like the peace of mind knowing your son is with your wife/partner while you are at work.
5. There is no such thing as "baby proofed"
You can try to baby proof your house, but you won't. You'll only partially baby proof it. Your kid will find holes in your defenses and penetrate what you thought impenetrable. The best you can do is try to minimize the possibility of harm and baby proof everything you can. You'll find things you missed over time (hopefully not after an injury) and that's ok, just baby proof things as you find it and you'll do just fine. But remember, you have a master tactician on your hands and your feeble attempts at defense are laughable at best.
6. Google is your friend but also your worst enemy

7. Pictures become more valuable than gold
When you have kids, something changes in your brain and you feel you must document everything. A new smile? Snap a picture. Baby looking awesome in that new Oriole shirt? Take a picture. Going to the zoo? Take hundreds of pictures. These pictures pile up over time and become one of your most prized possessions. They are glimpses into the past and visually depict the subtle changes over time you may not have noticed in person. Back them up and then back them up again but also remember to be present in the moment. That's something that we as parents can often easily forget. If you're too busy documenting, you may find yourself on the outside looking in when you should have been a part of the memories themselves. Find a delicate balance and go with it. Also, get a nice camera and for goodness sake record in landscape mode if you're using your phone.
8. A sleeping baby on your shoulder is heaven on Earth
No words needed, just the picture over to the left. That is the best thing ever.
My wife and I are only 10 mos. in and we have a long journey ahead of us. I anticipate that we'll be learning a ton more along the way as the months go by. If you have kids of your own, what have you learned since your child has been born? Let me know in the comments what I have to look forward to as Jack continues to grow.
This is such a sweet post. I also could not agree more with #8 and so miss it. Not enough to do it again but miss it...
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