Sunday, October 19, 2014

What a Difference a Year (and a Baby) Makes

Before you have kids, everything seems so simple.  If you and the misses want to go out for the night, the only concern you have is what you're going to wear or where your night will take you.  When you have a child though, there is another layer of complexity thrown on top of your plans.  You have to wait for your kid to nap, you have to make sure he is dressed, you have to make sure he is fed, you have to make sure you are packed and prepared for any event that could arise where your child may need a diaper changing or hear a tune from his favorite toy at any random moment in the day.  There is a lot involved in experiencing life with a child, but to us parents, we know that it's worth it.  Sure, I miss the days of being able to run out the door without having to worry about anything (besides how long my wife takes to get ready), but there is a ton of new and exciting moments ready to be enjoyed right around the corner.

Pre-kid trip to Webers last year
About a month before my son was born, my very pregnant wife and I decided to visit a local farm to get some pumpkins and try out our new camera that I bought my wife (look up the definition for push present if you want to know why.)  The farm is a place called "Weber's Farm" and it's located in Baltimore, MD.  We spent about 2 hours enjoying the fall weather and picking out a pumpkin that would grace our doorstep on the most spooky of nights, Halloween.  We took a ton of pictures and had a good time, but looking back it's almost funny how profoundly different our life would be within only a couple days.  My son was born a few days later on November 1st, 2013 and the rest is history.

Webers trip with Jack a year later
We always knew we wanted to go back to Weber's Farm but it's really only a place you visit in the fall.  With only a couple weeks away from Halloween, we decided to take another trip to Weber's Farm, but this time with our son who was present last year, just inside my wife's belly.  It's interesting to see places you haven't been in a while but with something profoundly different this time around.  Having a child changes the way you view events and activities you perform as a family.  Where before, my wife and I mainly went to get some pumpkins and just hang out for the little time remaining pre-baby, this time I was acutely focused on making sure my son experienced things that he hadn't before.  The sights, the sounds, the pumpkins, I wanted to make sure he was enjoying the moment even at the young age of 11 mos. old.  He most likely will not remember this particular moment in time.  This won't be a single moment in his life where he fondly looks back on and thinks to himself that this was a good time.  No, it'll just be another moment in a loving past where my wife and I can look at each other and say with absolute certainty that he was raised in a loving environment and we did everything we could to both expose him to new events and have a good time doing so.  You can buy a child any toy he wants, but they will pale in comparison to the moments he spent with his family doing something enjoyable, for they are truly more precious than anything else in existence.

What a difference a year makes
We do a lot for our kids, things that we probably never thought we would have in the past.  For instance, I just started a new job, in a new industry, on a very small team because it presented a unique opportunity to better my families life.  This switch was outside of my comfort zone, but I saw an opportunity that would not only put us in a better place financially, but would also ensure that my wife would be able to stay at home with my son.  We have both made sacrifices in terms of finances for the sake of Jack and his upbringing to ensure that he never spends a day without someone he knows and loves by his side during these formative years of his life.  I am extremely thankful that I am able to provide this for my family.  I hope that in the future we continue to have opportunities to raise Jack in the best possible way, with extreme love from both parents, and as few screw ups as possible (pretty sure that's unavoidable for first time parents.)  In the meantime, I'll continue to enjoy having my son experience life in all of it's wonder, even if that wonder is just seeing a pumpkin for the first time.

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